calm and connected together, which translated into warm and affectionate behavior, even when they fought

respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away”

scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say ‘thank you’ for

“My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too

appreciate the intent

connect over each other’s good news

active-constructive responding allows the partner to savor her joy and gives the couple an opportunity to bond over the good news

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/